Authenticity Is More Than Being 'Real'

Authentic was the word of the year in 2023. From Merriam-Webster:

Authentic has several meanings, including “not false or imitation,” a synonym of real and actual, and also “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.”

I work to support organizations in creating environments where everyone can bring their authentic selves to workplaces where your personality, spirit, and character are welcome and valued. Over the years, I’ve received a few sarcastic but serious questions about this, like “What if my authentic self is a jerk?” or “No one would want to work with me if I were being authentic!”

These questions highlight a difference in understanding of what makes up someone’s authentic self. Being authentic means being able to speak and act in a way that aligns with your strengths, cultural background, and values. It’s not about acting on impulse or saying every unkind thought that crosses your mind because your values are part of who you truly are.

For example, I have judgmental thoughts. I’m human, it happens. My values of humility and care keep them from coming out of my mouth - I authentically recognize that my judgment is based on a self-centered perspective, so being authentic means that I proceed with curiosity.

Authenticity is not the same as “no filter.” Authenticity is the filter. You face decisions every day that challenge you. Authenticity—including your beliefs, values, strengths, and culture—guides you to do and say what feels right to you. Our workplaces should be filled with authenticity.

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